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Are You Tired Of Dead End Relationships? - If So, Read This…


So, does it seem like you are on this never ending treadmill of meeting a potential mate, getting excited because there may be

a possibility that you’ve met a good one, only to realize after a few months (or a few years for some of us) that you are back at square one!!!! UGHHH


...and have you been on this same path for years and you’re just fucking OVER IT and want to end this shitty cycle already?


Well, bayyyybeeee let me tell you that you can get off that bullshit mobile with the quickness!


And how do I know?


Well, because I did it! And I’m going to share how I ditched and ducked all the game players and time wasters and attracted a man who wanted a serious relationship. So, let’s get straight to the heart of the issue.


Bottom line is - You are attracting the bullshit. Yes, YOU.


I know some of you won't want to hear that or own up to the fact that you are summoning these failed relationships into your life, but it’s true. And it’s a GOOD thing, so don’t get frustrated and click away just yet. Let me explain.


The fact that you are attracting the relationships that you DON’T want is great news because - if you can attract what you don’t want, that means you are in control and you can make some adjustments and changes that will attract what you DO want.


So, how are you attracting what you don’t want?


Well, it’s all in the energy that you’re giving off. Your energy is created by your beliefs, fears, and insecurities (among other things). When you feel things (good or bad) about people, circumstances, and situations you give off a vibe about those feelings and people who match your feelings will be attracted to you and attractive to you.


Is that confusing? Ok, let me give you an example.


About 6 years ago, I was afraid to fall in love because I didn't want to get hurt again. I had been hurt and let down many times previously. I had my heart broken and my trust abused. I had been taken for granted, lied to, and cheated on. And bayyybeee I was not trying to go through that shit again, so I had my guards up. But, by trying to protect myself from hurt, I was attracting more hurt. How so? Well, the energy I was giving off was fear. I was afraid of getting hurt again and that was the energy that I was emitting to the world.


‘Ever heard the saying ‘like attracts like’? What about ‘what you give is what you get’? Or how about ‘you reap what you sow’?


All of those sayings are true, and once I accepted this reality, I totally understood why my relationships were going nowhere.


See, by emitting an energy of fear, I was attracting people who also emitted the energy of fear. Remember, like attracts like. So, I was attracting people who were also afraid. I attracted people who were afraid to love, afraid to commit, afraid to be honest and more… and those fears were creating the problems that I was experiencing in my relationships. The people who were afraid to love wouldn’t let me in. The people who were afraid to commit wouldn't take the next step to make the relationship official. The people who were afraid to be honest would cheat on and lie to me.


So, how did I end that shit storm of a cycle?


Well, I had to learn how to feel differently about love and relationships so that I could give off a different energy. Fear no longer served me.


So, here’s what I learned. I was making a mistake that I believe so many of us women make. We use our pain and past experiences as detectors of red flags. We are constantly on the defensive trying to prevent ourselves from ending up in the same situations that hurt us and let us down previously.


Now, let’s be clear. I’m not suggesting that we shouldn’t learn from our mistakes and make wiser choices. What I am suggesting is, instead of focusing on recognizing red flags and preventing ourselves from falling for the type of people and situations that may cause you pain and problems again, why not focus on how to stop attracting that shit altogether?


Ever heard of the law of attraction? If not, you can click here to learn what it is. If you are familiar with it, then you know that it attracts to your life what you feel, believe, and think. That's how your fears, insecurities, and the things that you don’t want get attracted into your life. So, why continue to focus on how to avoid what you don’t want when you can change your energy and use the law of attraction to your advantage and focus on what you DO want?


Well, that's what I did!


I was tired of attracting relationships that ended in disappointment. I was tired of wondering when I was going to catch a break. I realized that I needed to change my beliefs, which changed how I was feeling, which changed my thoughts, thus changed my energy. Once my energy changed, the bullshit relationship (well, it was more of a situationship) simply dissolved, and 2 weeks later my now husband was messaging me on Facebook to take me out on a date.


So go on Sis, work on changing your energy so you can start attracting a partner who wants what you want and is ready for a Queen like you!


Now, I will admit it’s not super easy, you will have to make some effort to change your energy. You should invest some time into learning and understanding your own energy because you can’t change it if you don’t even understand it. It’s like the saying goes ‘you have to know where you are before you can figure out how to get where you’re going’.


To make it a little easier, I made a quick ‘lil worksheet to help you identify your energy. It’s free, just click here and pop in your email address and you’ll have it in seconds.


...and once you have your energy all changed up and you done got all booed up, don’t be a stranger girl! Come back and holla @ a sistah so we can celebrate the good shit!






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